#5 : Loving Wisdom Evening
June 2, 2018
Loving Wise Ones speaking through Ruth Shilling, in Narragansett, RI – Channeling #217-2June2018
Summary of ALL POSTS from June 2, 2018
- The mind and the heart do not always agree.
- The mind rearranges different factors until they come into something comprehensible that the mind feels comfortable with.
- The heart works in an outside of time way, and it can fluctuate or perceive in a flash. It has a broader, wider view.
- These two different components (mind and heart) will often come to different conclusions about what is “best.”
- This not being together is like static that makes it hard to get clear and get guidance.
- When something is not working:
- Find out, “What is the agenda that my mind has here? And what conclusions has my mind come to about how to keep me safe?”
- Try to let the mind step aside a bit and put the focus into the heart, or whatever feels like a deep place within yourself where you are not thinking in words. Let yourself experience it as a packet of information.
- Begin to put words on it (but let yourself experience it first).
- Look at the two. If the two come into alignment with each other, things will go very smoothly for you. You will know what to do. You’ll have things come in when they are needed. Things can work out much more nicely.
- If we want to live in a state of skillful mastery in our lives, it’s important to be aware of the beliefs we’re working from.
- Is it true? Beliefs explored: Life gives you challenges because there is a lesson you’re supposed to be learning.” “Challenges are here to be experienced.” “It’s always for the greater good.”
- The belief will create a whole different experience out of the same event. If the belief you are holding isn’t yielding good results, try a different belief for a period of time.
- Everyone has their own personality, but when we are thinking the same thing and it’s not working, better to choose another belief, come from another side.
Mind, Heart, Challenges, and Beliefs
Repeating the question: There is a challenge that is before this person and she just can’t seem to get through it or it doesn’t seem to be moving forward. And how to maybe learn the lesson or somehow know what to do about it. Is that a good way to describe your question? (yes)
This is, of course, a very pertinent question for it probably applies to most of the people here in the room. If there isn’t something particularly challenging they’re facing now, they certainly have had things in the past and who knows maybe also, there will be things in the future.
So when we have a situation that is a challenge, and we’re trying to meet that challenge, it can feel that “I’ve tried this. I’ve tried that. I’m doing my best, And it’s not working.” Is this the feeling? (yes)
There are a number of ways we can approach this question. We will begin with something general, in that the mind and the heart do not always agree.
There is much that the mind understands, and there are many different factors that the mind will take into consideration. And the mind will tend to put these different factors and sort of move them around and rearrange them until it comes into something comprehensible that the mind feels a certain okay-ness with.
The heart, on the other hand, tends to work in an outside of time way, and it can fluctuate in a flash. It can also perceive in a flash. It has a broader, wider view of anything in our lives.
And so these two different components will often come to different conclusions about what is “best,” or what would be the most pleasing thing. And having this dissonance… Dissonance is too strong a word, but this not being on the same path or the same “wavelength.”
This not being together will be like static. If you’ve ever been using a cell phone and the connection isn’t good, there’s all this static and you’re trying to hear the answer it’s just to these “blip-blip” kinds of things. It’s not giving you any help. That can often come from this [dissonance].
- So the first thing we would recommend when there is something that you’re trying to understand or work with or be in relationship to, any of those things, and it’s “not working,” the first thing is to check in to find out, “What is the agenda that my mind has here? And what conclusions has my mind come to about how to keep me safe, how to keep me okay, how to keep things good for me?” Find out what that is.
- And then try to let the mind step aside a bit and put the focus into the heart, or you could go deeper, whatever feels like a deep place within yourself where you are not thinking in words. You’re outside of the word realm. You’re going into the deep place in yourself that gets a packet of information. Let yourself experience that, in whatever way.
- Then begin to put words on it. But let yourself experience it first, then put your words on it.
- Look at how the two are. If the two come into alignment with each other, things will go very smoothly for you. You will know what to do. You’ll have things come in when you need to have them come in. Things can work out much more nicely.
So this is just one basic thing that we want to say. As a general thing, whenever there are challenges, this is a good first step to take.
WHAT’S THE LESSON?
Now you mentioned needing to know what the lesson is. Many people have the notion that – we’re not saying right or wrong, we’re just articulating here – the notion that various challenges come into a person’s life to sort of bring one up short so that a particular lesson can be learned. You are all familiar with this, yes? This notion.
For a moment, just without having any preconceived idea, just allow yourself (and we’re not going to grill each one of you, this is for your own knowing), do you think that’s really true? Is it true that life gives you challenges because there is a lesson you’re supposed to be learning? (answers in the room of both yes and no)
So you see there are some different opinions about this, and we’re not here to tell you who’s right and wrong, scorecard or something like that. But it’s important when we want to live in a state of skillful mastery in our lives to be aware, “What beliefs are we working out of?”
Because if I have a belief that whenever something difficult happens, that there is some lesson that I am supposed to be learning, then all my focus is going to go to, “What is the lesson?” That makes sense. If you have that belief, then the question is then, “What’s the lesson? How can I learn it? And then, hopefully, this thing will go away.” Right?
But what if that wasn’t true? What then?
Someone says, “Challenges are here to be experienced.”
That would be another belief. Let’s explore that one. Imagine that you have the belief (we’re playing here, right, just come along for the ride). We have the belief that we come into this life and we’re going to have certain kinds of experiences. Like, I touched the stove, and the stove was hot. Now I know what burn feels like. Maybe you say, “Well, that was the lesson. Not to touch the stove.”
Maybe we have the experience of standing by the water we feel the air that comes off the ocean. That’s an experience, too. That we’re just here in a physical vehicle, and we get to have experiences as being part of that physical thing.
If that’s our belief, then one day you’re walking along and you’re looking at… “Oh, look at that beautiful bird in the tree.” And you happen to step into a puddle.
Now, if your belief is, “I am here to learn lessons. And if something happens, I am here to find out what that lesson is.” Then one might conclude, “Look where you’re walking! You’re just letting your mind go off, and you’re not paying attention. You should pay attention to where you’re walking or you might step in a puddle.”
If, on the other hand, your belief is, “We’re here to have experiences.” You might step into the puddle and go, “Ouuuu! Wow!” (stamp, stamp, stamp). “This is great! I love it! Thank you, bird, for keeping me distracted so I would step right in it!”
So you see how the belief will create, out of the same event, a whole different experience.
Let’s have another belief, a third one. If you have challenges, what’s another belief? What does someone else believe?
It’s always for the greater good.
OK. That’s a good one, right? So, “it’s is always for the greater good.” Let’s go back to our bird in the tree and we step in the puddle and we go, “Wow, I got the shoe and the sock wet. It’s all for the greater good.” (laughter) “Because it’s going to dry off and it gave me a chance to look down and remember that I can still walk. And I still have feet. And I was able to buy those shoes with money that I earned. And it reminded me of that. Thank goodness. It’s all for the greater good.”
So that would be another belief that then brings about a different experience.
So let’s go back to our original question here, our friend here asked a question about, there is a challenge that she doesn’t seem to be able to get through in a way that she feels good about, and she’s thinking, “If I can learn the lesson, then maybe… Tell me what the lesson is so I can learn it and get it over with.”
Let’s hear from the person who asked the question, from what we have just said, do you have any ideas about what you might do to face this challenge in a different way? (No)
Okay. This is a suggestion. Right now, the belief that you’re holding isn’t yielding very good results. You could try out different belief, just for a while, and see what sort of results you get then. Do you think that’s possible? (Yes)
And, you know, you’ve got this whole pool of people who could probably – we just did a couple – but there could be some other beliefs that you could entertain, say for a week or so, and see if that puts you in a different relationship to this challenge, because you were on a track that wasn’t bringing you where you wanted to go. So if you switch tracks, that can help. And if the second one doesn’t work, try another one.
We’re not saying anything about… we didn’t say whether any of these were true or not true. Okay, so no misunderstandings with that, yes?
If we’re not getting the result that we want and we keep repeating and repeating, then it helps to come from another side.
Another person says that she thinks that there is always a gift there, and it will stay until we find what the gift is.
So that’s another possibility. So you can try these on and see. Everyone has their own personality, but when we are thinking the same thing and it’s not working, better to choose another. We believe we’ve made our point.
We feel that this is a very important question because this is a typical thing to have happen for everyone, and so having a little look at “What is causing me to repeat something?” Usually, it’s a belief.
We’re complete with that. We feel that we have said what we would like to, and we certainly wish you well with your… (pause)
Did you already feel a change there? (yeah)
Isn’t that wonderful! Let’s all celebrate that. (Yay!)